Not all BDSM is sexual for me (especially being demi). To me, it's… a life, a skill, an extreme hobby, an experience, a performance, a craft, a community, a family, a home, a connection, a catharsis, and an art form. I tend to be comfortable bottoming for the same play I top for, and vice versa.

My favorite scenes are ones with warmth, closeness, and connection. Cold and clinical puts me -- in my own scenes -- in a bad headspace. I love fun, out-there scene ideas… If we can’t laugh during play then why am I even here!