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Whistler is an asexual dominant from Oklahoma City who finds joy in bad puns, loves learning new things, and tries not to take himself too seriously (with some success). Whistler holds a bachelor's degree in psychology and a paralegal certificate. In his vanilla career, he has nine years of experience writing and negotiating corporate contracts, which often requires breaking down complex ideas in order to communicate them simply and concisely. He applies these negotiation and communication skills to his own kink practice, and thoroughly enjoys sharing what he has learned with others.
Whistler has taught classes at ThatPlace in Oklahoma City and 13th Floor in Tulsa ranging from impact play and flogging to consent, negotiation, and emotional literacy. Conferences attended include Tribal Fire, Oklahoma Leatherfest, OKC Kink Weekend, South Plains Leatherfest, and Thunder in the Mountains.
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A note from the presenter: Did you feel uncomfortable when you saw the title of this event? If so, you're not alone. Many of us never learned how to skillfully talk about emotions - especially those who, like me, were socialized as male when we were children.
As a result, we either avoid thinking about those pesky feelings entirely, or else we get overwhelmed and handle them like a person learning to swim in the ocean during a storm: with a lot of screaming and thrashing that is more likely to hurt ourselves and those around us than help us get to shore safely.
My hope is that this class can be a small step toward changing that. Together, we'll try to answer questions like:
- Why should we care about feelings?
- Who is responsible for our feelings?
- Can we control our feelings?
- How can we more effectively communicate our feelings?
- How can we more effectively hear the feelings of others?
Thank you for your interest and your support of THRIVE! Because THRIVE is 100% free and not accepting donations, we ask that you pay it forward by donating to our speakers.
Whistler asks donations be made to The Trevor Project (https://give.thetrevorproject.org/)
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