SwitchySylvar




Pronouns: Xe/Xem/Xyrs or He/They
25 Years Old
United States, Oregon,


Thrive Virtual Conference Bio:

“I am not a burden; me not asking for help may be robbing someone else of the joy of service.” -Cinder 3.7.2022

"I am not living my life for other people's consumption" -Sylvar 8.30.2021

"Every experience is a once in a lifetime experience, because no matter how hard we try, nothings ever exactly the same as it was the first time”. -Jolene Perry

"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all. From now on you will be traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be. The key is to allow yourself to make the journey."
-Princess Diaries -"

"Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage" - Brené Brown


*** Fully vaccinated as of 2/26/2021; 3rd booster received on 10/25/2021 | HIV/STD Negative as of 8/13/2021 ***


Personality: The Turbulent Advocate
Code: INFJ-T
Role: Diplomat
Strategy: Constant Improvement

The accurate pieces are quite accurate, some bits are not.
INFJ-T
☀️ Cancer |🌙 Taurus | ⬆️ Capricorn


BLM/ACAB/LANDBACK


Vanilla me:

I am a burnout gifted student with ADHD and ASD. I have multiple simultaneous interests at different states of completion at any given moment. Books, TV/ Movies, Video Games, and the occasional hyper fixation that sparks my brain to deliver that dopamine. I often speak in memes and music when I can’t find the right words to communicate a feeling.

I love being out in nature, but I am a chronically ill spoonie and part-time wheelchair user, so despite my absolute desire to tell society to ‘Fuck off’ and go live in the woods, sustainably right now I can’t. Because of that I am also unable to engage in political activism and protests as much as I would like. My being disabled makes me unable to safely attend, so I try to empower and elevate marginalized voices in my life through both career and volunteer work.

Give our people their land back now!

I am over a quarter indigenous on my mother’s side, I do privilege from the ability to pass as white, but identity erasure is not a privilege. I still suffer from the same types of ancestral and intergenerational trauma that my BIPOC siblings do, and I will use my white passing abilities to work within the very systems oppressing us and be a proponent for change.

I am a smol but mighty individual, I may be 5’3” but I have all the passion and the heart of someone twice my size.

I am a daily 420 user, weed is an integral part of my life, a passion, special interest, and it literally saved me from a life living on pharmaceutical medication. If you have a problem with that or being around it we likely won’t mesh well.

I love learning about people! Tell me your favorite song, movie, or favorite place?


Kinky Me:

Just in case is isn’t clear NSFW below here~ 😏

As a Kinky Switch, I am currently navigating and discovering my likes, dislikes, and role in kink. I have discovered in recent months that I absolutely love to top. Because of that I recognize that I need both sides of the slash in my life to feel fulfilled. I will bottom, but it must be an extraordinarily strong individual whom I also trust.

I have one active partner currently who you might see me engaging with on here. They are my joy and absolute world, and anything that is sent to me, automatically assume they will see So, do with that what you will when you consider messaging me.

Because I am chronically ill and a part time wheelchair user, I use kink both as a coping skill for my mental illness and as a way of reclaiming power over my own body. Pain I can control and say when it stops vs uncontrolled pain of my illness.

Below is not an exhaustive list, but I feel like my visibility will provide those who feel alone some comfort;

-Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome
-Rheumatoid Arthritis
-Fibromyalgia
-Permanent Post-concussion syndrome from multiple TBIs
-Multiple Chemical Sensitivity
-Autism Spectrum Disorder
-Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (cPTSD)
-Anxiety and Depression
-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
-Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)
-Abuse Survivor

I am Two-Spirit, trans masculine, NB and as such I do not accept being referred to with any stereotypically feminine pronouns or honorific and will block those who do.

When I am subbing/bottoming I love names like ‘Pretty Boi’, ‘Baby Boi’, basically anything with ‘Boi’ or ‘Bxy’ and some term of endearment, ‘Prince’, etc. But also, more objectifying terms if we’ve agreed on them. So long as I feel equally cared about and degraded at the same time, you are golden

When I am domming/topping, you cannot go wrong with ‘Syr’, 'Warden', ‘King’, 'Boss', 'Mister', 'Captain', ‘Mxstress’, ‘Chief’, However, 'Daddy' is reserved only for those I’m involved in that dynamic with, if you refer to me as such, I will assume you have not read my Bio and it will be an immediate block.

I have been in the community since June of 2018, when I attended my first munch, fell absolutely in love with the beauty of kink, and never looked back. I regularly attend munches and events and attended my first Kinkfest in 2019! I am here both to learn and observe, as well as make lasting connections, memories, and experiences.

With the reopening happening I have been cautiously working on finding way to give back to my community through service as a disabled and immunocompromised individual. I was a volunteer virtual moderator for Leather Reign 15, I have signed up to volunteer for Kinkfest 2022, and you may even see me doing DM shifts down at Sanctuary! If you see me at an event, don’t hesitate to come up and say hello! I don’t bite… that hard… well at least not without consent and negotiation first!

I genuinely believe in the 'you won't know until you try' state of mind, and as such I am willing to try almost anything once. I have some personal experience, and have experimented with various things or am interested in experimenting with them:

-Edging
-Bondage (restraints/cuffs)
-Impact-play (spanking/paddles/flogging)
-Sensory play (blindfolds/headphones)
-Rope bondage and suspension
-Fire Play (cupping/cell popping)
-Needle Play
-Knife Play
-Primal
-Violet Wand
-Caregiver/Little
-Consensual non-consent
-Somnophillia
-Overstimulation
-Cock-warming
-Orgasm control (not denial)
-Oral Fixation
-Public Play (possibly depends on setting)
-Pet play (Generally Kitten, Fox, or Bear Cub)
-Breeding (must be done in a way to not make me dysphoric)
-Humiliation/Degradation
among others.

During my first club visit I was quite captivated by multiple suspension scenes I saw done by the ROpenSpace Family, and am extremely interested in trying suspension myself, with proper instruction of course.

Along my journey, I discovered I have a little side, I have an amazing partner who has helped me explore this side of myself. Because of them I am embracing my little side more fully now, and if age play or Cg/l makes you uncomfortable, we won’t be compatible. My little side permeates everything I do, even when topping I do it with little giggly sadistic glee and will bounce around you while you writhe in pain at my hand.

I am here to make meaningful friends and connections, be an advocate for inclusion, equity, and diversity within the community, and possibly find a mentor or house too. 

~Little Bear

Zoom Name:

Sylvar




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I identify as:

  • 24/7
  • He/Him
  • Primal
  • Kitten
  • They/Them
  • Prey
  • Switch and Leatherboi


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