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bendy (she/her) is a heavy sadomasochist  who lives as the s-type in a 24/7 irrevocable consent relationship, and is particularly skilled and practiced at long-term relationship negotiations.


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Who will be presenting:

Why They Didn't Safeword

Class Description

A panel of experienced kinksters will discuss the ins and outs of safewording, from both the bottom and the top perspectives, with focus on how so often so many of us do not safeword when we should, due to cPTSD / trauma response. This is a hypnokink community panel, but we think that the above is relevant to all kinksters of all interests and experience levels.