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Sol Vorare

(They/them)

sol vorare (they/them) is an autistic, genderfluid, lesbian slave whose true passion belongs to their Leather heart and the strength they find in their surrender. Through their experiences with depression and autistic burnout, they've cultivated a strong sense of identity and enjoy helping others explore their own. Through volunteer work in local groups, they support their kink and Leather community by helping maintain places to socialize with and learn from like-minded people.

Who will be presenting:

"I'm Overstimulated!": Making Use of Neurodivergent Suffering

Class Description

"I'm Overstimulated!": Making Use of Neurodivergent Suffering

Suffering pain or discomfort is often seen as the ultimate gift in power exchange dynamics. For many neurodivergent individuals, discomfort isn’t a scarcity to be glorified but an inescapable state of being. How can we make a gift of something constantly present, that takes so much from us? In this class, we’ll discuss how we can use our sensitivities to feed dynamics, explore unique possibilities for distress, and remind ourselves that all of our suffering is worthy.

Presenter Bios:

Rooster Chantico and their slave, sol vorare, have engaged in a 24/7 Master/slave dynamic since 2021. They are both trans, polyamorous, and neurodivergent kinksters that have found a home in the Leather community. Located in Ann Arbor, Michigan, they dedicate themselves to education in kink practices, queer history, and mutual aid.

Connect with Rooster and Sol:

FB: Rooster Chantico and Sol Vorare
Fetlife: RoosterChantico and SolVorare
Website: roosterandsol.carrd.co

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Who will be moderating:

Bound by Understanding: Building Emotional and Mental Support in Long Distance Dynamics

Class Description

Bound by Understanding: Building Emotional and Mental Support in Long Distance Dynamics

Step into the Kingdom, where Princess Delilah and her devoted Lady-in-Waiting, Lady SeRue, offer a glimpse into the wisdom behind their Royal connection. In this immersive workshop, they will guide participants through the principles of building emotional and mental intimacy in long-distance dynamics, exploring how adopting roles within a fantasy framework can deepen trust, provide emotional support, and promote mental well-being. Join us to discover the powerful ways that creative connection can enhance personal growth, resilience, and meaningful bonds, regardless of distance.

Presenter Bio:

Mrs. Dee Supreme and MoniqueButtaflyy met at the height of the pandemic, forging a deep connection through online munches and virtual community spaces. Their long-distance, platonic D/s dynamic is built on trust, mutual care, and a shared commitment to emotional well-being.

Mrs. Dee is a Queer Leather Woman from NYC, a consent advocate, and a kink educator. She is the Vice President of ONYX Pearls NY-NE and a founding member of the House of Supreme. Known as the "Consent Queen", she has
spent over seven years in the BDSM community fostering education, advocacy, and safer, consent-focused interactions. Living with PTSD, Major Depression, ADHD, and Anxiety, she understands the complexities of mental health within power exchange dynamics. As a polyamorous, relationship-anarchist-leaning individual, she values autonomy, intentionality, and authentic connection.

MoniqueButtaflyy is a slave-hearted submissive and dedicated community advocate from Winston-Salem, NC. An Associate member of Leather Girls of Color (LgOC), ONYX Pearls Southern Leather (OPSL), and an affiliate of the House of Supreme, they bring warmth, words of comfort, and devotion to their Leather family. Whether virtually or in person, they are committed to fostering meaningful connections, learning, and supporting their community. Living with Depression and Anxiety, Monique prioritizes emotional safety and mental health in all aspects of their relationships.

Who will be moderating:

Craving Protocol, Fearing Protocol: Navigating RSD and Autism in Kink

Class Description

Craving Protocol, Fearing Protocol: Navigating RSD and Autism in Kink

Routines, self-set rules, and protocols often help those with Autism and other neurodivergence navigate life. If you’re drawn to protocols and rituals in kink, you’re not alone. But what happens when the prospect of a new power dynamic feels terrifying—when fear arises that these structures might unintentionally take away what you cherish most?

Do you feel the need to “batten down the hatches” before entering a dynamic? Perhaps you’ve hesitated to use an honorific, worried it might feel awkward, or felt anxiety over even a well-negotiated act, like offering a cup of water, being rejected. These moments, driven by rejection sensitivity (RSD), often appear at the worst times.

Join us to explore the journey of (re)self-discovery as a submissive. We’ll tackle the challenges of RSD, share strategies for building secure dynamics, and focus on recognizing growth over perceived failure.

Presenter Bio:

LeatherChaplain (they/it) is a progressive monastic s-type oblate, a former Catholic now aligned with Protestantism, currently pursuing ordination within a forward-thinking Christian denomination. With a background in pastoral ministry from Phillips Theological Seminary, they are dedicated to providing spiritual care, particularly to individuals within kink and polyamorous communities. Active in the BDSM community since 2005, LeatherChaplain embraces an ethically non-monogamous lifestyle, identifying as a "Submissive to the World" on the Right-Side-of-the-Slash and as a Smart-Ass Masochist (SAM) with a hint of ethical bratting.

Specializing in deconstructing religious trauma and scripture, LeatherChaplain offers trauma-informed webinars and discussions that approach these topics with nuance and care. Beyond their ministerial pursuits, they have served in leadership roles, including with the Unitarian Universalist’s Leather and Grace Steering Committee, co-hosting an Ethically Non-Monogamous Christian social group, and moderating the Christians & BDSM group on Fetlife.

LeatherChaplain's personal journey in kink has led them to explore various taboo practices, including surveillance play, objectification, financial servitude, and head-shaving rituals, integrating these experiences with a profound commitment to structure, discipline, and service. Their path reflects a unique blend of spirituality, kink, and progressive thought, honoring both their faith and personal identity.

Who will be moderating:

Many for the Price of One: How Does a Relationship work with Plural Folks

Class Description

Many for the Price of One: How Does a Relationship work with Plural Folks

Relationships are complex. When a member of that relationship is plural, things can be even more complicated. What are some things one can do to understand plurality, and navigate that complexity?

Presenter Bio:

Harmony are an OSDD system with around 7 active members, as well as AuDHD. Each member of the system has separate needs and wants, leading to Rysn being in a 24/7 dynamic as a kitty, and Lzzy is a brat tamer. We have been active in the kink community for the past few years in varying capacities, and are currently on the Board for Ann Arbor TNG.

Maxim Xavier is a transmasculine androgyne and co-host of a monoconscious median system. He is diagnosed schizophrenic and bipolar. He lives a 24/7 D/s lifestyle with a service kitty sub and sadistic Top. He is also a co-organizer of Melanin Munch MI and his goal is to provide diverse perspectives on various topics within the community.

Who will be moderating:

Pawtism: Neurodivergence and Petplay

Class Description

Pawtism: Neurodivergence and Petplay

We will go over updates to the DSM-V, unlearn harmful words and talk about the connection to ND and petplay along with why someone on the spectrum might be interested in petplay.

Presenter Bio:

Hunter is a queer transmasc pet that has been active in the community for two years but kinky for much longer. He is an Alpha to his pup, protector of one and Omega to his local pack. They are the Inaugural Route 66 Pet 2024 and the current Co-Chair Alpha of Paws and Claws Oklahoma, an educational Pet and Handler group, and has been to multiple events helping as a demo/service bottom. His interests include pet play, cigar service, primal play and all things sharp and pointy. He is also a little and leather boy with a passion for education in any way he can. Besides helping out friends and community members, he strives to continue fostering acceptance, love, and a safe space for fellow queer and neurospicy individuals.

Who will be moderating:

Voices, Visions, & Odd Beliefs: Support & Dynamic Modification for a Partner with Psychosis

Class Description

Voices, Visions, & Odd Beliefs: Support & Dynamic Modification for a Partner with Psychosis

Understanding what psychosis is, creating a flexible dynamic that allows for adjustments allowing for good and bad days, and supporting yourself or your partner through an active psychotic episode.

Presenter Bios:

Who will be moderating:

Who’s In Charge Around Here?

Class Description

Who’s In Charge Around Here?

Caregiver/little relationships with a side of Dominance/submission (D/s) blend nurture and authority, but they’re not all snack packs and snuggles all the time. These dynamics are both complex and rewarding.

In this class, we’ll explore the layers of these unique relationships, diving into where caregiving and power exchange intertwine—and sometimes collide. Participants will gain practical tools for self-regulation, creating meaningful rituals, fostering open communication, and navigating conflict like the grown-ups we pretend to be.

Whether you consider yourself new to this or true to this, this session will offer relatable stories, fresh insights, and actionable strategies to strengthen your connection and keep the magic alive. Because no matter who’s “in charge,” the best relationships are built on love, intention, and ongoing commitment
— and maybe a few glittery stickers.

Presenter Bio:

OYK (she/her) is a sapphic queer, neurospicy, “pro-heaux,” submissive, masochistic little Leather girl who has been unapologetically painting alt-LS communities pink since 2016. Although Philly Black Munch will forever be "home" her dedication to service has reached far and wide, with volunteer contributions to events like CTX Darkside, MsC Worldwide, Sex Down South, Service Oriented Conference, and SELF. In 2020, under the loving guidance of her Ma’am, Lady D, she co-organized PEP & The Sanctuary’s Virtual Family Reunion, which celebrated connection during uncertain times.

Currently, OYK serves as the Chair of Leather girls of Color (LgOC) and is a member of the patched Club’s inaugural Class, “The Foundation.” As a “Big Sib” she mentors LgOC’s newest members, further fostering the organization’s core values of education, service, support, and sisterhood.

With a deeply-rooted passion for mental health, disability advocacy and healthcare equity, OYK is dedicated to amplifying marginalized voices. Her community work is a love letter to little Black and Brown girls like herself, proving there is power in vulnerability and imperfection.