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You’ve Got To Be F**cking Kidding Me?!

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Class Description

We are each human in interestingly different ways and how we respond to life circumstances has a huge impact on our physiological, spiritual and emotional wellbeing, leading to shifts and changes in our mental health. Hormone fluctuations, disease, chronic illness or traumatic events can have significant but shorter-term impacts on our mental health.
Sharing their struggles with menopause and cancer treatment, Tomo and Eleven provide a foundation for participants to share their own stories of how mental well-being is effected by crisis and offer transformative possibilities to support deep adaptation.


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Presenter Bio

I’ve been exploring the possibilities Leather, BDSM and Kink create my entire adult life. My coming out story includes a childhood game of caging my toys and only letting them out if they do what I say. It’s still pretty much like that, but more enduring, passionate and subversive.

I’m grateful to be rooted in justice, witchcraft, queer, BDSM and polyamorous communities in Amerika and Australia, that support and shape me and my connections to extraordinary people, like my noble and devoted Tomo and my beloved paramour of 10 years, face sauvage.

I tip my hat to all those who carved the paths I walk and work to keep the trails warm for those that will come, especially the creatives and non-conformists. I’ve educated, informed and entertained for over 20 years from on stage, behind a radio desk or typewriter and continue to find affinity to folks with a radical analysis of Empire, Patriarchy and Capital.



Presenter Bio

Tomo (She/They) is a queer butch leatherdyke who found the leather community during a sunset motorcycle ride with her wife Mel over 27 years ago; and has presented classes, produced events, served as a judge, keynote speaker, auctioneer and emcee at leather events since. Tomo has been served by her boy levi for 15 years.


Tomo served as Northwest slave 2015 and International slave 2016/2021. Beginning in 2023, she will become the Owner and Producer of the International Master slave Contest and South Plains Leatherfest.  She was a Producer of Northwest Leather Celebration, the Northwest Master slave, Northwest Bootblack, and Northwest Person of Leather Contests.  She was also a Producer of International Ms Leather and International Ms Bootblack for seven years.  She

co-produces the Ms Sacramento Leather Contest and is a founding member of the D.U.C.


Tomo is the Director of MAsT: Sacramento, is a member and serves as Webmaster for Queer Leather Association Sacramento, has served as the West Coast Curator for the Leather Quilt Project, and is a member of MAsT: San Francisco and The Exiles. She was awarded the 2013 Pantheon of Leather President's Award, the 2018 Master slave Conference slave Heart Award, and the 2020 Vice President’s Award from the National Leather Association.

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slave joy


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